Alchemy of Yes
By Dr. Cedar Barstow When there is a role power difference, one person is in an up-power role and the other person is in a…
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Power of Relationship Repair, Dr. Cedar Barstow
“Is there anything else you need now for our relationship to feel repaired?” This is the last piece of the RUP 5-Step Resolving Difficulties process. …
What’s In Our Name, by Dr. Cedar Barstow
POWER. It’s everywhere. Some seek or measure themselves by it, and some avoid or downplay it. Seldom do we pay attention to how having more…
Why it’s important to say YES to your power
Why It’s Important To Say YES To Your Power? I want to talk about power. Power is at the bottom of most things and yet…
The Power of Lamenting: An Alternative to Numbness and Rage
Dr. Cedar Barstow The Power Of Lamenting Here are a couple of questions for you. What happens inside you when you when you read or…
The Shadow Effects of Leadership Power
The Shadow Effects of Leadership Power: Dr. Cedar Barstow Power, the ability to have an effect or to have influence, is our birthright. We all…
150% Principle
By Dr. Cedar Barstow 150% Principle “I’m trying to imagine ethics without an awareness of power. That would be like trying not to step on…
Why is self-care an ethical imperative, not just a luxury?
This might be quite obvious when we stop to think about it, but often the need to get things done and take care of the…
On the Underuse of Our Powers, by Dr. Cedar Barstow
Last week, a workshop participant wrote me: “I just took a right use of power workshop, and it changed my life! I had somehow never considered that…
Power: Misuses and Abuses
Here’s another continuum: I call this the misuse/abuse continuum. In our trainings we sometimes refer to harmful actions as misuses of power and sometimes abuses…